Overcoming Shame in Singleness: God Will Not Put You to Shame

“Anyone who believes in him will never be put to shame.” Romans‬ ‭10‬:‭11‬ ‭NIV‬‬

His Word promises us that we will not be put to shame. If you’re single and longing to be a wife, you’ve likely felt the quiet ache that comes with waiting—and, perhaps, the weight of shame that sometimes settles in with it. If you've ever struggled with overcoming shame in your singleness, I want you to know: you are not alone. I’ve been there too.

For years, I loved God deeply, prayed faithfully, and tried to trust His timing. Yet with every new year, every wedding invitation, and every question about “when it will be your turn,” a quiet thought would whisper, What’s wrong with me? I didn’t know how to name it at first—but it was shame. Not the kind born from guilt, but the kind that comes from feeling unseen, unwanted, or left behind.

I used to attend big women’s conferences and notice something that always struck me: people prayed for women waiting to conceive, for families in crisis, for breakthrough in finances—but rarely, if ever, for women waiting for marriage. Yet in an auditorium of thousands, I knew there were countless women silently aching for that same prayer. Women in their thirties or forties who’d never been married. Women who’d been divorced and longed for a second chance. Women who loved God but quietly wondered if He’d forgotten them.

That silence can make you feel invisible. And in that space, the enemy whispers lies—You’re not enough. You’ve missed your chance. You’re too this, too that. But the truth is, your waiting is not a punishment, and it’s not evidence that something is wrong with you. It’s part of a story God is still writing, one that requires trust when the ending is unseen.

Romans 10:11 says, “Anyone who believes in Him will never be put to shame.” That includes you. God doesn’t overlook the unmarried woman. He sees the prayers you’ve prayed in the dark, the tears you’ve wiped away, and the moments you’ve celebrated others while still waiting for your own breakthrough. You have not been forgotten.

So, if shame has crept in, bring it into the light. Talk to God about it. He cares deeply about what weighs on your heart—even the things you think you shouldn’t feel. There’s no shame in wanting love, no guilt in longing for a husband. Your desires are not silly or selfish; they are seen and known by the One who placed them there.

Cling to His promises and pray boldly, reminding Him of His Word:

“Lord, You have promised that I will not be put to shame while I wait. Even as others marry, I choose to remain steadfast in Your Word, knowing You delight in fulfilling the desires of my heart. Thank You for preparing the blessing of a husband in Your perfect time. Amen.”

Wait in faith, beloved. God is good. He is rearranging things even now to bring an answer to your prayer. In due time, you will walk in the fullness of His blessings—and when you do, you’ll see that not a single moment of your waiting was wasted.

Beth

About Bethany:

Bethany waited years for God to fulfil His promise of marriage — and saw Him move in a way only He could. Now she helps women pray like Hannah did, trust God’s timing, and prepare their hearts for the blessings He’s promised. She’s the writer behind Faith Like Hannah, a devotional brand for women walking through the waiting season with hope.

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