You Are Enough: Encouragement for Single Christian Women

I am messy. Oh my gosh, I’m openly admitting this. I wish I wasn’t — in fact, I’m praying that by the time you read this, God’s already helped me change! I have a habit of getting something out and not putting it away. It may sound silly to those who are gifted in this area, but I don’t even realise I’m doing it until suddenly I’m surrounded by clutter — and I hate it when my house is messy.

It sounds absurd as I write this, but then I remember: as humans, we’re funny things — totally beautiful and totally flawed, and I want this devotional to be an encouragement for single Christian women who have quietly believed “I’m not enough to be someone’s wife.”

You might be thinking, “What in the world does this have to do with today’s message?” I’m sharing this (and hoping my husband doesn’t read it or I’ll never hear the end of it!) to make a point: we don’t have to be perfect to be someone’s queen — the woman God has chosen for a godly man.

You probably know that. You’d tell it to a dear friend crying on your shoulder after a breakup. Yet deep down, have you quietly set conditions on yourself — reasons why you’re not ready to be someone’s wife yet?

“I need to fix myself first… I need to sort out that annoying issue no man would ever accept.”

Let me say this plainly: that is stinking thinking. Somewhere along the way, someone made you feel ‘not enough’—and the enemy kept whispering it until it felt true.

I remember dating a man once. He was nice, but I knew in my spirit he wasn’t the one God had for me. When I told him that, he said, “What you’re looking for doesn’t exist.” Those words rang in my ears.

I wanted a man with bold faith who lived all-out for God, but I suddenly questioned: Was I looking for someone who didn’t exist? Were my expectations unrealistic? Was something wrong with me?

Those words tried to become my truth. But what the enemy intends for harm, God turns for good (Genesis 50:20). Instead of shrinking my faith, that experience deepened it. I chose to believe that if God had placed that desire in my heart, He was able to fulfil it — and in His perfect timing, He did.

Maybe someone has ended a relationship — or even a marriage — and blamed you. They said you were too much of one thing or not enough of another. Now you feel afraid to try again because you think you’re too imperfect.

But when God brings the man He has chosen for you, you’ll be exactly right for him — with all your quirks, habits, flaws, and scars, and even with the wounds still healing.

You may have told yourself:

I’m too old. Too broken. My past is too messy. My career isn’t stable. I need to lose weight. I’m not attractive enough…

The list goes on. But God wants you free from those lies. His grace and blessings are not limited by your weaknesses — thank goodness, or we’d all be disqualified!

Yes, work on yourself and grow. That’s part of becoming who He’s called you to be. But don’t let self-improvement become self-disqualification. None of those things are deal-breakers to the plans God has for you — or to the man He’s preparing to love you.

Marriage, after all, is not the reward for perfection; it’s the joining of two imperfect people who choose grace daily. Some wounds are only healed within the safety of a Christ-centred marriage. And even if you could “fix” all your issues beforehand, marriage would simply reveal new ones.

And yes, my husband sometimes grumbles about my messiness. But overall, God has given him patience and grace to love me through it — just as He’s given me grace for his imperfections.

You are enough — not because you’ve perfected yourself, but because the God who made you calls you enough.

Beth